i know what im going to do now...
im gonna go with
JVC HDR1 deck...thats the one that has the 7 band EQ. Well i just recently got a new phone with 8Gbs, and im using that for my music, and i figured out that when i get calls, it cuts out the music, so that works great, and plus with a headset, thats my mic...so im pretty much getting everything that i want.
im still unsure on the speakers i want to use tho, and the amp, and sub as well.
when i get to that point, i'll let you know, and see if im approaching this from the right direction.